Nonetheless, before you rush to make any judgment calls, you must be certain what's truly occurring. Is it safe to say that you are truly seeing signs your undertaking accomplice is losing interest, or is there something different taken cover behind their adjustment of conduct?
Here are 9 Warning Signs Your Affair Partner Is Losing Interest
1. No future plans
Every relationship expert will tell you the same thing: the first red flag you should pay attention to is that you and your affair partner have no future plans anymore.
Or, to be exact, they’re the one who avoids the topic.
Do you remember how things were in the beginning? You both dreamt about how things would be when you enter a real, committed relationship.
You probably talked about a place to stay, you planned on traveling together, and you had your entire life together figured out.
However, all of that seems to have disappeared overnight. Your partner went silent as if none of these talks ever happened.
Even when you try to tackle this issue, they ignore you completely.
And I’m not only talking about long-term future plans. I’m talking about short-term plans as well.
You can’t get them to sign up for a weekend getaway or a coffee date tomorrow night, let alone anything else.
Isn’t this fact alone suspicious? If you’re being honest, you’ll admit that it is definitely one of the signs your affair partner is losing interest.
2. They avoid the divorce talk
When you engaged in this affair, there were some promises made. You know the usual lines: their marriage or long-term relationship is falling apart, and they’re about to break up or get a divorce.
They made sure you believed that you two would be together for real before you knew it.
But now, when they no longer feel anything for you, everything changed. They’ve stopped bringing their divorce up completely.
Even when you ask them about it, it turns into a huge fight.
Let’s get one thing straight: they were likely lying to you from day one. They just wanted to make you fall in love with them, and they succeeded in their mission.
However, as funny as this might sound, they no longer even put effort into deceiving you. It’s like they don’t give a damn whether you stay or leave.
Or, to be exact, they know that you’ll stay, so there is no point in persuading you that they’ll end things with their SO. I know you’ll have a hard time accepting this, but it’s one of the most surefire signs your affair partner is losing interest.
3. They avoid physical intimacy altogether
Let’s get one thing straight: we’re not talking about an emotional affair here, are we? That is why it’s quite unusual for your partner to avoid physical intimacy.
I just told you that it’s bad if they only want to sleep with you. And now I’m telling you that it’s bad if they don’t want to sleep with you either. What’s going on?
Well, the trick is in finding balance – one of the things your relationship clearly doesn’t have.
Don’t get me wrong – it’s one thing if they’re tired or if this is just a phase. You can’t expect anyone to be turned on 24/7 or for your sex life to always be at its peak.
It’s also understandable if you know that they’re going through something. Maybe they’re dealing with additional stress at work or something similar. In that case, this is not a red flag you should pay attention to.
4. Making excuses
One of the signs your affair partner is losing interest is hidden in the excuses they keep on making, whatever the situation is.
You ask them about divorce? They will tell you that they can’t leave their spouse because they’re emotionally blackmailing them, because they have a mortgage together, or for the kids’ sake.
You ask them why they spend so little time with you? They keep telling you that they have to work extra hours, that they’re busy at work, that they’re tired, or that they just can’t fit you into their schedule.
Sound familiar? Well, the truth is that I could go on and on because there are endless examples of similar behavior.
5. You’ve become their last resort
Whether you like to admit it or not, the truth is that you’ve become this person’s last choice.
When you first started dating, they were ready to drop everything just to spend time with you. They would sneak out of the house to see you, they would cancel meetings and business appointments to be next to you.
You were their priority, and you clearly held first place in their life. However, all of that has changed with time.
Lately, they’ve only been calling you when everyone else stands them up. Everything and everyone has become more important than you.
Their family (including their spouse), work, best friends, hobbies… you name it.
And you don’t have a problem with them having a place in their life. After all, you know what you signed up for.
You have a problem with the fact that there is obviously no longer room for you there.
6. Your feelings come last
Have you tried talking to your partner about all of these things bothering you? Absolutely yes!
Was it ever a fruitful conversation? Hell, no.
Why is that so? Well, isn’t it obvious? At the end of the day, your feelings don’t matter to them.
As painful as it is to grasp this idea, they don’t give a damn about whether they break your heart or not.
They don’t care if they leave you hanging, waiting for them to show up as they promised. They don’t care if you cry yourself to sleep.
They don’t give a damn about the fact they’re ruining your future. They don’t care how you feel.
On the other hand, they make sure not to hurt their SO. They make sure not to disrupt their seemingly perfect life.
It seems like everyone’s emotions, needs, and well-being are significant. Everyone, except yours, that is.
7. They’re annoyed by everything you do
What are some of the first signs your affair partner is losing interest? Well, this one doesn’t have a lot to do with affairs in general – it also answers the question of how to tell if your partner is losing feelings.
When everything you do annoys your partner, one thing is clear: the infatuation is long gone!
I’m mostly talking about those little things they used to find interesting and cute. But now, they’re literally bothered by the way you breathe.
That’s exactly what’s going on in your affair.
For example, you used to be jealous. Your partner saw that as a sign of your love for them. They were flattered by your possessive nature.
Now, all of a sudden, they can’t stand this side of you.
It’s like that with everything. They’re annoyed by the way you kiss them and make love to them, your text messages, how you look, talk, and behave.
I hate to break it to you, but this person’s disinterest is quite visible – you’re just refusing to see it.
8. There is someone else
Okay, so they’re cheating on their spouse with you – we’ve got that covered. But once they start cheating with a third (or should I say fourth?) person, it’s time to pick up what’s left of your dignity and walk away.
I mean, come on, you won’t allow yourself to be cheated on by a person who’s cheating on someone with you, will you?
If this is the case, the truth is that you’re dealing with a serial cheater. These people don’t care who their lover is – as long as they are in a position to commit adultery.
I hate to break it to you, but this was never about you. They just wanted to cheat, and you were convenient.
You obviously no longer give them the thrill they were getting at the beginning of your affair. Of course, this has nothing to do with you – this person is just moving from one victim to another.
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